I pride myself on being the bigger person. It is incredibly difficult to do but I try to do it always. Throughout the many discussions that we've had while filing for divorce, He and I have had many arguments as well as many times that things have been easy. I've tried and am still trying to be the bigger person.
So today, on Father's Day Eve, I decided to be the bigger person and send Him the following text, despite getting no sentiment of appreciation on Mother's Day:
"Thank you for being a Dad that cares and goes out of his way for his kids. I know that it will benefit them and that means a lot to me. Happy Father's Day!"
I have had some moments of weakness where I name called or made a low blow. I have had times where I allowed anger, whether it be his or mine, to drag me into the dirt. But overall I can honestly say that I've been fair and nice. Or at least cordial. I've seen it pay off, too. Being the bigger person has really paid off. I have learned so many lessons in the last few years as I've seen my marriage crumble and this is probably one of the best!
Edit ~ June 15, 2014
I've been thinking about this post and hope that it doesn't make me seem "holier than thou". I really don't feel that way and I don't want anybody who reads any of my posts to ever feel that way. The intention of this post was to point out that it is incredibly difficult to be the bigger person and requires a ton of self-restraint. And there are times when it's impossible to always be the bigger person. But it is so gratifying when you can look back and know that you were. And sometimes the other person realizes that they've been "bad" and does something nice to make up for it.
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